How to Make Other People Like You

Wanting people to like you doesn’t mean you are insecure with your current relationships – it means you are striving to improve your current situation.  Likeable people are the ones that get the raise, get the girl (or the guy), and often win the support of everyone else.  They are less stressed, more popular, and generally live a happier life.  Being likeable is a great way to brighten your current life and your future.

 

1. Be Empathetic

 

If you can put yourself in other people’s shoes to empathize with their situation, you can express genuine compassion.  This compassion is comforting and uplifting to others.  If you can identify with your colleagues they will appreciate your time and energy.  When you are empathetic you are also considerate of other people’s needs, holding them in high regard.  If you give respect, you will garner respect from others.

 

2. Be Humorous

 

People tend to take life too seriously.  Humor is a great way to lighten the mood and make others smile.  Laughter is contagious and it feels good.  If you can put a smile on someone else’s face (as long as it isn’t in expense of someone else) then they will enjoy spending time with you.  Being humorous also means being able to take a joke or point out your own fallacies.  No one is perfect and if you pretend to be you will just come off as snobby.

 

3. Be Complimentary

 

Help others when you see them struggling.  Lend a hand or offer guidance whenever you have the opportunity.  This includes giving someone a compliment.  Be careful not to overdo it or you may just sound fake and patronizing.  Giving honest compliments shows others that you value them.

 

4. Be Confident but Humble

 

Likeable people aren’t pushovers.  You must know where your strengths lie and make decisions when necessary.  Sometimes people need to be guided, and likeable people are usually reliable leaders.  However, don’t let your confidence get out of hand and turn into cockiness.  Be proud of your strengths but understand when you take things too far.  True leaders understand that without followers, they would be useless.  Show your appreciation for other people’s efforts.

 

5. Listen and Engage

 

In today’s fast paced society, it’s hard to get someone’s attention for longer than five seconds.  When you are in a conversation, have respect for the other person by giving them your full attention.  Don’t answer phone calls or text in the middle of a discussion.  You can show that you value the other person by engaging in the conversation rather than just letting them talk.  Give honest feedback and input whenever possible.  Absorb what they are telling you: you never know, they might be saying something important.

 

6. Be Fashionable

 

Despite our intentions, humans naturally place a lot of importance on looks.  Stay in style by choosing fashionable clothing.  Make sure to maintain your basic hygiene; take daily showers, wear deodorant, and brush your teeth often.  You can take care of your body by eating healthily and hitting the gym every so often for a good workout.

 

In summary, remember never to sacrifice any part of your personality in order to please someone else.  If you do, you run the risk of coming off as insincere and phony.  Stay true to yourself and work on improving your own outlook, rather than on pretending to be someone you are not.

 

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