How to Show Her You Love Her

It’s difficult for guys to express their love.  We know we love you, so why do we have to constantly say it?  Whenever I forget to reaffirm my affection for my partner, I try to think of the other end of the stick.  My view on love is probably her view on sex: why do I have to do it again, we already did it last week?  As much as we like to assume she knows what we’re thinking, we still have to verbalize our feelings.

The simplest way to express your love is by saying it.  It may seem repetitive and useless to you, but to her it’s comforting and reassuring.  Try to make it a habit; tell her before you leave for work, after you get home, or before you go to bed.

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while then chivalry is probably long gone.  By introducing new manners back into the relationship, you can strengthen the bond both of you share.  Start opening doors for her again.  Offer to pick her up instead of having her meet you somewhere.  Call and ask her on a date, and bring a bouquet of her favorite flowers!  Small gestures like these add up and she will definitely take note.  If these are too much to as for, then just putting on cologne or styling your hair for her can make all the difference in the world.

The beginning of a relationship are where most couples tend to share stories about themselves and their views on life.  After a while, this eventually tapers off and most of the conversations are curt and meaningless.  Not that silence is a bad thing, but often there seems to be a diminished sense of enthusiasm.  Try sparking a conversation with your partner.  Ask her what her thoughts are on current world events. There’s a lot going on politically and economically in the world, and you might discover that she has a unique perspective on ideas that you never considered.

One of my favorite things to do is research a romantic meal and cook it for my girlfriend.  Buy a dozen candles at the dollar store and set them up around the house.  When she answers the door, hand her a nice flower and spoil her with the delicious food.  Make a few romantic desserts, like chocolate coverered strawberries or cheesecake.

Showing your love takes a bit of effort and creativity.  Find out what she is interested in doing that she has never had the time or opportunity to try.  Dance classes, scuba diving, visiting a special museum or art house.  Set up a time where both of you can go together and she will be flattered.

If you really love her, you want to make her happy.  I’m sure she’s been asking you to do some things you absolutely dread: watch a play, go see a chick flick, or even visit her mother.  Bite your tongue and just do it.  She’ll know you are going because you love her and will appreciate the effort.  On this same note, even letting her switch the channel to “Glee” while you’re watching “Deadliest Catch” can turn a fight into a loving moment (and yes, this comes from personal experience).