How to Spice Up Your Life by Becoming Someone’s Secret Admirer

Are you looking for a low-key way to turn a friendship into something more?  Do you want to start a relationship with someone, but are too afraid to approach him or her?  Perhaps you’re even looking for an unusual way to spice up your current relationship.  If so, becoming someone’s secret admirer can have some significant personal benefits.  But how do you do this without spooking the person or being too obvious?

There are lots of ways that you can go about becoming someone’s secret admirer. One of them is to visit a florist and have them send flowers or chocolates anonymously to the person’s home or office.  A well written (but unsigned) note will also go over well.  You can also use specialty encrypted email servers to send that special someone notes and messages.  There are several out there, like LovingYou.com, that can be of tremendous assistance.

Another fun thing you can do is to leave them clues to your identity.  Write a sweet note complimenting them on something nice you saw them do for someone, such as helping a friend with a chore.  They will go crazy trying to figure out who you are and how you knew this.  Leave a short, positive, flattering note every day, and let them try to figure out who you are by the people you mention and the references you make.  This can be a fun game to brighten up a dull day at the office for them.

There are some important rules to follow, however.  For instance, make your secret admirer notes and messages lighthearted and funny, rather than serious.  As a secret admirer, you should also avoid hanging around their home or office, unless you work or live there, as this can be construed as criminal activity, and can land you in jail or with a restraining order.  This is unfortunately more heavily enforced if you are a man rather than a woman.

One final thing – before you begin, make sure that the person really is single!  Never stalk or anonymously flirt with someone who is married or in a relationship, especially if that personal also works with you.  Besides from making them uncomfortable and causing drama with their partner, you are likely to run your friendship with the person if they find out who you are.  We know it’s tempting if you are obsessed with someone and feel a sense of entitlement towards them, but in the long run it’s just not worth it.

The key is to remain mysterious and fun, rather than overly romantic and serious.  You can make being a secret admirer a very enjoyable experience for both you and that special someone with the right tips and tricks.  Keep it fun and you never know what might happen!