At some point in life, everyone will experience the pain of a breakup. Sometimes, this will be a mutual decision and not difficult to cope with. However, a breakup that you did not see coming can be extremely hard to deal with, and can cause feelings of rejection and depression.
If you find yourself starting your day with a stiff drink or ending every day at your local tavern or bar, face it – you need help. However, with the right guidance, you can heal from the breakup and move on with your life.
Take Stock and Reengage
One of the most important things to do after a rough breakup is to take stock of your life, and figure out how to reengage with your life as a single person. This means getting up and getting out – find something to do that isn’t moping in the house and thinking about what just happened.
Take Comfort From Friends
Hanging out with your friends is an important part of the healing process, and those closest to you can definitely help you get over the pain. Spending most of your time alone will make you dwell on the pain of what’s lost. However, involving yourself in a group setting will help you gently break out of your low mood. Depending on the group and the activity, you will also meet some interesting new people.
Get a New Hobby
Another thing that you might consider is taking up a hobby. Outdoor sports can be great hobbies to help you vent frustration, anger and other emotions from that breakup. You can also choose other hobbies like gardening, model building, pottery, or photography. Find a new passion so your energy goes to something positive. And no, sitting outside your ex’s house with a pair of binoculars cannot be considered a hobby – sorry.
Put Away Old Love Letters
The most important thing to do after a breakup is to find something to occupy your time and your mind so that you do not dwell on what happened. Moving forward with your life is more important, so replace your old flame with something positive and healthy, even if that won’t be another person for a while. Stop dwelling on the past or reading old love letters; instead, move onwards in the next chapter of your life.
If your feelings after the breakup do not diminish within 6 months or longer, consider getting help from your friendly neighborhood therapist.
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