How to Answer Annoying Questions About Why You Are Single

If you are single long enough, people are going to start asking questions about why you’re not paired with a perfect beau.  In truth, this really shouldn’t be any of their business.  However, that doesn’t stop people from thinking that it is!  They might be genuinely interested in trying to help you find someone new, they might be looking for a friend to take to a singles bar or event with them, or they might just be curious about why someone as stunningly good looking as you (yes you are!) is still single.  Or they could simply be fishing for gossip. 

Regardless of the reason, you are going to eventually have to answer a question or two about why you are flying solo, so let’s make sure your answer is a good one!

When people start asking questions about why you choose to remain single, you should answer honestly as long as you are comfortable with the person asking the question.  Family members and friends are going to be the ones who come to you with the questions most frequently, so being honest doesn’t hurt.  They are simply interested in your well-being, and oftentimes are addressing the elephant in the room (whether or not you think there is one or not).

If you are more interested in your career and need to be single right now for work reasons, let them know.  If you are working a 12-hour day, of course you don’t have time for another person in your life, since you are so focused on your own goals and aspirations right now.  On the other hand, if you’ve recently got out of a long term relationship, you simply might not be ready to give yourself over to another person quite so quickly.  

These are honest answers and they should be enough to satisfy anyone who asks.  Show them that you’re in a great place in your life right now, even though you’re single, and that being in a relationship might change that.

At the end of the day, if you choose to remain single for whatever reason, that is entirely your prerogative.  It is also up to you to answer any questions posed to you about your relationship status.  If you really don’t want to answer, you can simply tell them that it is your choice and change the topic of discussion.  If the person is a good friend, they will respect your choice and leave you be. 

A person who continually brings up the subject when you’ve asked them not to, on the other hand, probably has their own selfish reasons why they’re asking you, and it is often best to avoid them as a friend unless you want to wind up confronting them about their bad behavior.