7 Signs That She is Cheating

That feeling in the pit of your stomach that she’s cheating on you may be more justified than you think.  Our instincts have guided through thousands of years of evolution, and more often than not, they point us in the right direction.

If you feel your partner is cheating on you, here are signs you can look for before making a decision to act.  Whether or not you confront her, gather all of your concerns and evidence first so you can take the appropriate action.

Sign #7: She Has a New Style

If she has distinctly changed both her wardrobe and hair recently, something must have caused it.  When it comes to self-image, it usually takes a big reason to switch up a style.  She may be trying to impress another person or even going on dates.  However, women often update or change their fashion, such as when they are working towards a promotion or applying for a new job.  Be cautious only if it is out of her character (and budget) to be sporting a brand new wardrobe.

Sign #6: She is Protective of Her Cell Phone

A trusting girlfriend should have no issue with you using her cell.  If she’s been calling or texting someone inappropriately, she will be protective of her phone.  Has she started locking her cell lately, or put a password on it?  Does she act jumpy or guilty if you come into the room while she is talking on it or texting someone?  Unless she is planning a big surprise birthday party for you, she should have no issues with you overhearing her phone calls.

Sign #5: A Sudden change in Your Sex Life

Changes in intimacy are a good indication of a problem in the relationship.  Whether it comes from stress or infidelity, be sure to address the problem as soon as possible.  If she’s getting action from someone else, she will approach your sex life differently.  Be cautious of either a complete disinterest in sex or a dramatic reduction in your sex life.

Sign #4: She Limits Communication

If she becomes curt and abrupt when talking to you, or impatient during conversations, she may be checking out with you because she is finding fulfillment elsewhere, connecting with a different person.  By limiting communication with you, she is separating herself emotionally from your relationship.

Sign #3: She Detaches Herself

If you live apart, has she stopped coming over, or spending time with your family?  Like limiting communication, she could by trying to separate herself from you physically.

Sign #2: She Has a New and Mysterious Friend

If an old male friend comes into her life or she starts hanging out with a co-worker more often than she used to, don’t jump to conclusions, but do take notice.  When women cheat, they often try to hide it by saying the guy is just a friend.  In fact, he could be a friend at this point, but she is trying to see if he’s worth taking it to the next level.   If she starts going on ‘business trips’ with this person or spending time with him after work for ‘business reasons,’ you may have a problem on your hands.

Sign #1: You Catch Her in a Lie

This may sound obvious, but women are better than men at lying because they are usually more creative.  Say for instance you find a text on her phone that sounds flirtatious, yet she is able to make a valid excuse for it?  And what if a picture of her at a party pops up on her social network website, when she said she was babysitting?  If you catch anything that is suspicious or questionable, or start to discover irregularities, she may be cheating.

Before you start throwing around accusations, however, remember that all of these signs (save catching her in the act), can come from other causes like stress, ill health or family problems.   However, if many of these signs are apparent in your relationship, it’s important to address the issue because they can eventually lead to infidelity. 

Rather than sneaking around behind her back or hiring a private investigator, just come clean and talk to her frankly.  If she agrees with you that your relationship is going downhill, you may be able to fix things yourself by visiting a relationship councilor or just by sitting down with her and honestly talking things through.